“My Mother told me to be a lady. For her that meant be your own person, be independent.” – Ruth Bader Ginsberg

One time at college I was practicing (tumbling) between classes. I was so thirsty but the vending machine was in what was known as “The Bear’s Den.” I walked to the door but inside the den was full. I could not open the door in fear that students would turn and see me. Inside I was screaming to just pull the door, you’re so thirsty. I turned got in my car and drove across town to buy something refreshing to drink.

But why?

I was bullied as a child. I was made fun of because I was short, I was taunted because I was masculine, my hair was fuzzy, my nose has corners. While silly, the words and actions penetrated my core. Eventually I began to see myself through the eyes of those that bullied me. It wasn’t until my mid-twenties I was able to look in a mirror without crying. I hated the person I saw in the mirror. The ugly, short girl full of physical flaws.

As a nurse I have found bullies still exist so heavily in this profession. Mean girls are on every unit. Hateful comments are made about lack of skills, lack of intelligence, appearance, attitude. I have thankfully grown strong through the years, but so many times I have to talk with nurses who are in tears from the hateful environment their coworkers enjoy creating.

It’s not over, but it can be. Be a woman who builds other women. Be a woman who helps celebrate the uniqueness of each person. Be kind to one another. Be strong. Be weak. Be courageous. Be fearful. Be unapologetically you. You my friend, my sister, are a beautiful soul.

If you are struggling with self confidence and body issues, I highly encourage you to read “Do You Think I’m Beautiful.” It changed my perception and helped me become a strong, independent female.